Many of us strive for friendship and community. But as our world becomes more complex, it’s hard to avoid feeling like you’re navigating this journey on your own. Today, loneliness isn’t just a feeling—it’s an epidemic.
A recent study from the American Association of Retired Persons (AARP) shows that 40% of those surveyed, mainly adults 45 and older, reported feeling lonely, even when they aren’t truly alone. This 5% increase from the last survey, conducted in 2018, is prompting behavioral health experts to take a closer look.
Among the more than 3,000 Americans surveyed, many groups noted increased loneliness:
- Men
- Adults between 45 and 49 years old
- Adults who have never married
- Adults who are not employed
- Adults whose income recently fell below $25,000
- LGBTQ+ adults
What is causing this uptick in loneliness? A lack of genuine social connection could be the answer, as many surveyed reported feeling like they had no close friends.
So, what does loneliness really mean?
Loneliness is not about how many people are around you. It’s about how connected you feel to others. It can feel like you’re not truly seen or heard. You might feel emotionally distant from others, even in a room full of people.
These feelings are all completely normal and more common than you may realize. It doesn’t mean something is wrong with you; it just means you’re human and need connection. By treating yourself with kindness and giving yourself the room to grow, no matter what stage of life you’re in, you can get that sense of belonging and community you’re striving for.
How to know when extra support can help
At Sheppard Pratt, we know that feeling lonely from time to time is part of being human. But when loneliness lasts or begins to affect daily life, it may be a sign that extra support could help. Our care teams have seen how ongoing loneliness can often be connected to feelings of depression, anxiety, or stress. Support can take many forms, including working with a therapist who can help you identify ways to address your loneliness.
It may be time to reach out for support if you are:
- Feeling sad, empty, or disconnected most days
- Pulling away from friends, family, or activities you care about
- Losing interest in things that once brought you joy
- Feeling more tired, worried, or overwhelmed than usual
- Struggling to keep up with daily routines
Reaching out for help isn’t always easy. It may even feel scary at times, but it is also the first courageous step toward relief. Talking with a trusted mental health professional can help you understand what you’re feeling and begin to reconnect, both with others and with yourself.
The importance of face-to-face connection
As the loneliness epidemic continues to rise, experts are committed to learning more about the importance of social connection for overall health and well-being. In fact, increased and improved social connections have been found to improve mood, lower stress, and support your physical health as well.
The internet and social media have become common sources of comfort for those who feel lonely. While these spaces may help you feel less alone for a moment, they tend to fade quickly and don’t always replace the benefits of spending time together face-to-face.
By seeking the advice of behavioral health experts and focusing on in-person social interactions, you can get back to feeling more present and connected.
Small, gentle ways to feel less lonely and more connected
When loneliness feels heavy, even small steps toward connection can make a difference. Experts often encourage starting with simple, low-pressure ways to reconnect with others:
- Inviting a friend or family member out for a walk, meal, or coffee
- Joining a support group or class that piques your interest
- Attending community or neighborhood events
- Volunteering for local organizations or causes that speak to you
As you start your journey toward improved social connection, remember that your mindset is just as important as your actions. Gentle mantras and reminders can give you the boost you may need to take the first step, like:
- “Small steps still count.”
- “I can do hard things.”
- “One day at a time.”
Connection doesn’t have to happen all at once. It grows over time, through patience and kindness. If you’re noticing increased feelings of loneliness, depression, or anxiety, talk with our behavioral health professionals to see how you can take charge of your happiness.